For both men and women, a major shift in attitude might be required after divorce but your emotional wellbeing should not be permanently sacrificed after a divorce and there are several ways you can begin dating again when you feel ready.Trusting someone after you have been emotionally devastated can be extremely difficult.Bottom line, know what type of man you want and do not settle for less.Regardless where you met this man, online or off, your first date should ideally be in the morning, be for a short period of time and in a public place. Dating after divorce is a completely different game than dating was ten years ago. Meet for coffee or go for a walk in a public place.
If the date went well, schedule a more intimate second date. Tell him about funny stuff that has happened to you or about challenges you overcame. Trust your instincts; they will never lead you wrong. If you are ready to WIN at the dating game, click here and register for my program “Dating Smart When Divorced“ Remember you are a strong beautiful woman and you hold the playbook to your life and to dating after divorce!
There is no need to make excuses to your children about what you are doing, they will want you to be happy and in time will really understand your actions.
However, keeping them out of the loop can create resentment and distrust between you and your children which is the last thing you want to deal with when you are beginning to date again after a divorce.
Do your best to keep your perspective on dating, life is not a romance novel and you’ll have good dates and bad dates, it’s all part of the experience of putting yourself back out there.
After a divorce you might feel lonely and if you have children then the burden of raising them yourself or dealing with the nightmare of custody can cause you to look for another relationship when you aren’t ready.