In this case, it’s about tapping into woman’s insecurities and confusion over male behavior, with the promise of understanding of learning what’s going on behind the scenes of a man’s mind. “I don’t want a serious relationship right now.” WHAT HE REALLY MEANS IS… without trying to change me or turning our relationship into MORE WORK and LESS FUN than I can have on my own.” Does this make sense?
“I ONLY WANT A RELATIONSHIP with a woman who already has her act together, is attractive, healthy, independent, easy-going, confident, and who is emotionally in control of herself and her own life.. Again, he’s NOT imagining a picture of an overly-emotional, predictable, needy woman who is trying to get him to connect with her and sharing her feelings because she’s so worried about things “working out.” In my google-searching, I found a post by this woman, who pretty much summarized his point of view.
In general, subvert any and all natural inclinations you may have as a woman, and pretend like nothing means really anything at all to you, or else any guy, anywhere, will run like the wind from you, because guys can’t stand a woman that harbors an actual emotion that might pertain to said guy. The whole thing consumed me for about 90 minutes and made me feel sick for several reasons.
I’ll admit that my feelings were not altogether rational at the time, but they were a product of being brainwashed by his mind-sucking prose: 1) The feeling that men and women are so irreconcilably different that we can never truly be ourselves with each other; anything that promotes this idea is just depressing.
Have you ever gotten sucked into something that you were also ashamed to read? I was listlessly checking my email when I noticed a text ad that I must have seen more than 10,000 times. The worst mistake a woman can make is not seeking help.
“How to catch and keep a man.” Those ads are as oddly ubiquitous as the text link ads for Acai Berry Wonder Diets, but I always assumed that ads with links like “Why Men Withdraw and What to Do About It” were for women who are more pathetic and malleable than me. Because men are so hard to understand, and Christian Carter has spent years reading every relationship book ever published, and he has thought deeply about the psychology of men and women when they are dating. So sign up and give him your credit card for his e-book at a price of .97 and his emails (interviews with relationship and dating experts) at a monthly charge of .97.
Don’t assume that just because you’ve been dating for months you’re in a “relationship” (WTF? Try to appear at all times to be a)selective b)unemotional c)hard-to-get d)a robot woman 6. It’s hard to imagine exactly what this great emotional connection consists of, except the idea that the man “feels great” when he’s with you, better than when he is single, and you as the woman are not constantly analyzing the relationship.Heather Jones is a writer who puts a light hearted yet honest spin on casual dating and relationships. Not only did this give great tips for those who are dating and just want to have fun, it really made me think of all the double standards in life.Her 'bottom line' approach to dating advice leaves women with clear and concise answers to today's dating dilemmas. And that no matter who you are or what you're doing, everyone brings their own experiences and influences to the table.It makes me wonder if pre-industrial societies had it right when men and women didn’t expect their mates to be their best friends, and instead found companionship with same-sex friends 2) The way that women get blamed simply for being women and having some emotional needs to–guess what? According to Carter, men want to be with a “cool girl” and a “cool girl is basically someone who is unpredictable, fun, emotionally balanced, has no insecurities, easygoing, and independent.” Ummm, is this true? This marketing campaign is obviously aimed at a very mainstream, middle American audience.Are there really that many men who prefer not to deal with emotions at all?